Feminist Porn?

Looking into Feminist Porn and the Awards Thereof
— Jersey Joe

One of my good friends, Eden Baylee, author of some of the best dammed, damn good, erotica around tells me that she is once again a judge of the Feminist Porn Awards, to be held on April 17, 2012, in Toronto. My first reaction was, ‘Toronto???’ Why not here in Montreal?’ Now I got to travel all the way to Toron . . . oh, wait, er, I mean,

My real reaction was to wonder just what is Feminist Porn anyway? Yeah, that’s the ticket; that’s what I was wondering. See, I thought, and please all you feminists who follow this correct me here, or spank me if that is the appropriate response, that Feminists claimed that Porn was demeaning to women, and since, once again this is an assumption on my part, that feminists tended to be women, then why would they want to give awards for something that was demeaning to themselves.  Quite the conundrum. So is Feminist Porn porn that Feminists approve of? Or is it made by Feminists? Or does it star Feminists? One can only explore these possibilities.

I got to wondering just what kind of porn would Feminists approve of? Maybe all the players are feminists and act in a politically correct manner, always asking politely before undressing, signing contracts of consent, offering to do onto others as one would have done unto them, again and again and again. Or, while engaging in Feminist Porn these Feminists take the traditional approach once laid down by the godmother of all Feminism, Betty Friedan, when she said,

 “No woman gets an orgasm from shining the kitchen floor.”

So either none of this takes place on a kitchen floor, or the floor stays suitably dirty while the Porn takes place upon it-no cleaning products or lubricants need apply, or, heaven forbid, no one has an orgasm throughout. Or, perhaps there have so many of them that the floor, once the shiny bane of sexual satisfaction, ends up stained to the high heavens of pleasure.

Of course, Ms. Freidan could have rephrased it to:

‘I won’t orgasm if my kitchen floor is shiny
Unless it got that way from using my hinny’

And that would have liberated many the female, and even some Feminists.

Then, as dangerous as it may sound, I got to thinking some more, and decided that maybe these are awards for Porn that is not demeaning to women. Maybe the Feminists who make, or award, this particular porn somehow empower the women.  Maybe there are only men in these films, stories, day dreams, so that they are demeaning to men and therefore get the Feminist stamp of approval.  Maybe in these films the woman shows up ‘to retrieve her baseball,’ or ‘to install the cable,’ or it’s some guy stranded on the side of the road, helpless, alone, distraught, who is so lovingly saved and enslaved by a friendly female who stops and, ahem, gives him a hand, and then the other hand and then, well . . .  why do you think station wagons have flat roofs?

Then yet again, maybe Feminists have taken the ever popular route of ‘if you can’t beat’em, join ‘em in the beating,’ and decided to embrace Porn as society has. The four major networks still cling to the moral high ground by only showing scenes of death, murder, and all sorts of violence and plots about rape, child molestation, and any other kind of deviant behavior they can come up with.

Each week the most popular show on TV, NCIS opens with the discovery of some grisly dead body. Its sister show, NCIS LA, has no choice but to outdo them by having as many people shot, beaten, and blown up as possible. Criminal Minds relieves on the most deviant beings to garner its rating, and then the various CSI shows explain in excruciating detail how the crimes were perpetrated. As Tryunn sings in “When My Time Comes:”

“Body parts are hidden everywhere but no one’s allowed to smoke.”

Meanwhile, just about every show on any cable or specialty channel has some form of frontal nudity, plenty of wise and wide cracks, and simulated sex, what used to be termed Soft Porn, an oxymoron is ever there was one. Where would shows like Shameless and Game of Thrones be without it? On the main networks, that’s where. Even everyone’s favorite serial killer Dexter gets his share of T&A. Were his a network show, his latest corpse would be that of some Navy lieutenant prompting Gibbs to come up with yet another rule, the trail dissected by the locally appropriate CSI gang, and the Criminal Minders would be in hot pursuit.

These Feminist Porn Awarders might just be embracing the brave new world. Maybe they’ve decided to follow in the words of one of the other major founders of modern day feminism, Gloria Steinem, who said, “A liberated woman is one who has sex before marriage and a job after.” The women in these films are either not married, or have kept this as their job after marriage. Unless, of course, the after marriage job is in the Feminist Porn industry or as part of this awards show. Hope they don’t blow it.

Another possibility is these awards go to works in which only Feminists perform. Hmm, the idea of Betty and Gloria getting it on, well, dis­_TUR_bing.

By now, dear reader, and I hope that is not an exaggeration, you are as confused as I am. You once thought you had a hand, or handle, on Porn, and I’ve gone and given it blisters. I’ve rocked the boat.  [A woman is out fishing and she hooks a merman who reluctantly sheds his skin and they . . . . oops, I digress . .]

There is one obvious solution to this problem. I am going to have to look into this much more deeply. I am going to contact my friend, Eden Baylee, and have her send me all the Porn she’s been watching so I can get to the bottoms and tops and all around this issue. Seeing is believing after all.

Now, where did I put my glasses, eye, shot and others?

Happy Easter from the most appropriate bunny I could find.

3 responses to “Feminist Porn?

  1. JJ! Thanks for your kind introduction! That is so great of you!

    Yes, ” feminist” and “porn” – they sound like two words that should not be in the same sentence unless they’re opposing each other, however….

    The awards are sponsored by Good for Her, which is an adult store that strives to bring visibility to people who are marginalized because of their sexual orientation or preference. The word ‘feminist’ is used differently than the past – in porn, it’s meant to elevate the role of the woman. We all know of the cliche, bad, mainstream porn that patronizes and degrades women.

    Fem porn aims to show erotic fantasy for ALL types of people, not just the beautiful people. In many of the fem porn films, you will see people of color, diverse body types — they represent a cross section of the population who might normally not be considered attractive for porn.

    Whatever your sexual preference, the film should be of quality and depict genuine female pleasure, because after all, women are sexual beings and not just there to serve the men, which is how mainstream usually portrays them. Stereotypes are challenged, and some of the stuff is pretty out there!

    Suffice it to say, it amazes me how diverse sexuality is. What’s important is that it exists for everyone, and if porn is a means of fantasy for some, (just like reading erotica), then it should be something everyone can relate to.

    Fab post, JJ!
    eden

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